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Description: Loving What Is by bestselling author Byron Katie is a simple, straightforward antidote to the suffering we unnecessarily create for ourselves and has inspired and help millions of people transform their pain into freedom. Written in an easy-to-follow, interactive and accessible way and drawing on illustrative case studies, reading this is the first step to turning your life around and achieving inner peace and harmony.'A great blessing for our planet' -- Eckhart Tolle' Her method can cut through years of self-delusion and rationalisation' -- Los Angeles Times'A pragmatic and simple way of getting people to take responsibility for their own problems' -- Time Magazine' Mind blown - [this is the] best book I have read of this type since Power of Now. Really helped me to let go of beliefs and judgements that aren't serving me. Thanks for writing it.' -- ***** Reader review' Amazing, life changing' -- ***** Reader review'A massively inspiring book' -- ***** Reader review' Very easy to read and an absolute gem!' -- ***** Reader review' Life changing (really)' -- ***** Reader review*****************************************************************************************************A thought is harmless unless we believe it Drawing on her own experience of moving through suffering to freedom, Byron Katie developed 'The Work': a simple, four-step programme to help pinpoint the problems that are troubling you and how to tackle them effectively. A life-transforming system for discarding the stories at the source of our suffering, this is your guide to finding inner peace and happiness.

 

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Author: GMc

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Review: Elsewhere (not in this particular book) Katie has written that 'defence is the first act of war', and in my life I have experienced this to be true. My urge now is to defend Katie's work against the negative comments written here, but, of course, when I inquire and turn things around in my head, I see that I have learned as much from these negative comments as I have from the positive ones, and I'm grateful for them. In my experience, Katie's work has nothing to do with blame. As I understand it, it is not interested in blame at all. Quite the opposite: it is interested in forgiveness. It suggests that, if we can learn to see how we ourselves hurt others with our thoughts, words and actions, then we can learn to forgive others when they appear to want to hurt us. Many of the negative comments here focus on a dialogue in this book in which Katie works with a victim of child abuse. At no point during this dialogue does Katie attribute blame to the woman for what happened in her past. If you read the dialogue closely you will see something very different happening, something very interesting and profound: a separation of the pain of abuse as it happens -- the real physical and emotional pain of the event -- and the pain of abuse as it is replayed by the mind afterwards. What Katie works with is this second kind of pain: the pain of the past and the future played out in the mind. She never ever denies the first kind: the real violence that may happen in a given moment. She understands that people inflict harm on others. But -- crucially -- she also understands that, after violence, we continue to inflict mental pain on ourselves, sometimes for the rest of our lives. This is what Katie's work is about: addressing the pain that we inflict on ourselves in the name of others (our families, our friends, our enemies, our abusers). It was the woman's abuser who abused; it is the woman who has been abusing herself in her mind ever since. No one can ever take the memory of the abuse away, but there are techniques, such as Katie's, which can help to eradicate the subsequent self-inflicted pain. Without the pain our minds inflict on ourselves in the name of others, would we begin to love both ourselves and those who have hurt or abused us? That is, would we begin to love unconditionally? I invite you, with all humility, to read these dialogues slowly -- or better, watch them in action at [...] -- and to sit with them, and see if you can apply them to your own life. I have found Katie's work a powerful tool for finding peace when my mind causes me pain and confusion.

 

Author: El23

Rating: 1

Review: I started watching Byron Katies videos some time ago and they helped me very much to accept my situation, to stop arguing with the past and to move forward in my life. That was good. I bought this her book as a New Year present for myself. But then, the more I read and observed, the more uncomfortable and even alarming things emerged. “Nothing terrible has ever happened except in our thinking. Reality is always good, even in situations that seem like nightmares”. “When I’m walking to the gas chamber, other than what I’m thinking and believing, what an amazing day!” - Byron Katie. Was it an amazing day for Jewish kids in 1944? Byron Katie teaches us not to think about it. In one interview BK said that all the problems that we’re dealing with are non-existent. - People come to you with very bleak stories of abuse, rape, bereavement, even murder. Do those stories shake you up? Do you feel sorry for them? - No. Never. I know that they’re perfectly all right. They only believe their thoughts. She writes that she had suffered from years of depression, anxiety, compulsive eating, substances abuse, suicidal thoughts. Then she had a profound experience which lead her to understanding that “I am a lover of what is… because it hurts when I argue with reality”. She started to teach an acceptance of what is and love it. I my opinion it is nothing else as rationalisation of traumatic experience and coping mechanism. It is OK if that is her choice. The problem starts when learned helplessness is taught to people with C-PTSD, PTSD, bipolar, depression etc. It’s like a person who learned how to cope with severe symptoms of an illness by taking huge doses of morphine claims to cure all other ill people with any kind of illnesses just by offering them same huge painkiller doses. No treatment, no therapy. Just take your pill and shut up. She is not offering work with trauma, with your shadow self, triggers, memories. She can’t. She has no training in psychology whatsoever. She is a guru or “spiritual mentor”. She earns money by abusing victims and trauma survivors, she refuses to listen to them and invalidates their very self. But I think she is a victim who cannot stand others to be not one. What she does is quite similar to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, but CBT focuses on correcting our mental patterns and teaches how to change destructive believes and behaviour, while BK teaches us how to question all our thoughts, experiences, feelings. Despite her claims she is not teaching people to accept the reality. She is teaching them to believe in the illusion where they are helpless, and where they cannot protest against harm even mentally. She teaches victims of abuse that their abuser did not cause heir suffering. If that is not a victim blaming, what is? Of-course, it is important not to be stuck in the traumatic past, and see the difference between things that are in our control and things that we cannot change. She emphasises that she does not preach passivity, according to her we can go further and change our reality. The problem is that she does not give as rights to own the reality. “The reality” is a “turn around” of our experiences, an empty tulpa. She pressurises people to “turn around” their experiences and question their reality. If that is not a gaslighting, then what is? If this is done against healthy people – it’s just a questionable practice. If it had been done to people with mental health problems, especially suffering from C-PTSD and PTSD – it’s more dangerous than that. She sits on stage and tries to convince people that racism is not a problem, that the pollution of the earth is not a problem – that it’s our reactions that are the problem. Privileged, arrogant and deluded? I doubt it. I think it’s deeper than that. She learned how to live in a survival mood, accept her helpless status and love it. I think her main interest apart from earning money is power. She was helpless against her abusers and could not change her life. Now she is teaching others how to love to be a victim and enjoy her guru status. To be a guru, or “spiritual mentor” nowadays is to be elevated to the highest level. Here, on stage, she can bully others and feel superior taking credit for helping without willing to help. Victims in survival mood often struggle to help others, struggle to sympathise. When she sat next to a man who was dying, she said to him that she does not care. In one of her books she said that she will nor resist throwing her baby into the fire in the concentration camp. Horrible? Well… you must question yourself and turn it around. Love what is, in all situations. No critical thinking needed. Individuals alone are responsible for their own well-being or suffering. Isn’t it so convenient for establishment? For people in power?

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